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13-11-2004, 18:23
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Breaking-up with BG’s
I’m wondering if fellow board members can give me some pointers and share some of your experiences as to how one is to proceed on breaking off a ‘relationship’ with a BG without leaving any residual unpleasantness or resulting in any sort of irrational behaviors, possibly violent inclined from her.
The reason I’m asking this is because for my next time in LOS, I’m planning on not seeing the BG from my last two trips and hopefully to experience other offerings from Phuket. But now that we have a sort of relationship established and have been communicating via phone, email, and text messages, I really do not want to hurt her feelings and to have her lose face, and I certainly don’t want to have my head get smash by a beer bottle. I supposed I could avoid going to the soi where her bar is located, or just go incommunicado but I think that would be rather cowardice and probably won’t solve anything in the long run. I guess that in breaking things off with her as soon as possible I can avoid any long-term pain on my part as well as any potential embarrassing and awkward situation from taking place during my next visit.  
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#3
13-11-2004, 22:09
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I Like The Way We Have To " Break Up " With Them..
Come On Lads.......they Dont Give A Fcuk About Us When We Are Not In Los.....they Only "care" For Us When We Are In Los... ....so Dont Worry About "breaking Up " With Them.........we Wont Hurt Their "feelings"......... Im Sure They Are Banging Some One Else As We Speak !!!!!!! Jonny
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13-11-2004, 22:21
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What did you tell her, marc?
I don't know why I'm the one feeling guilty about this since I haven't done anything wrong. I did tell her that on my next visit I'd like to visist some other wonderful places in LOS and she offered to be my tour guide, but from my experience based on the time I've spent with her I really don't how much her promises are worth.
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13-11-2004, 22:24
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I don't want any trouble from her and she can be a bit jealous from what I've seen so far. I don't want this turn into something hostile.
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13-11-2004, 22:25
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i told her that since i dont have a job, i can not have a girlfriend because if i get a job offer, i only want to have to think aboutme, no one else. its a load of shit but it seemed to work. im still going to hang out with her, just not exclusively. i just wont take any other girls from soi eric. we will see how that works. also, i still want to hang out in hong kong one night, im there dec7-dec12
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13-11-2004, 22:28
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 WHATEVER YOU DO.I HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YOU........... JONNY
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13-11-2004, 22:47
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Thats not totally true mate.. I have seen BG's in total tears (real not crocodile) and hurt feelings, because a previous LT punter had blanked them or other minor indescretion... The only advice I have is TOTAL honesty.. Sound lame but its the only way to be true to yourself and her and as far as I can work out honesty seems to minimize the heartbreak.. Yes it will be there but it really seems the easiest (belive me I am there roughly once a month)... Also break up prior to going.. One its out of the way and clear before you get here and two you are free and will not make the drunken mistake of thinking 'hey shes not all bad.. Damn she looks kinda fine.. Perhaps..' etc.. Good luck..
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17-12-2004, 17:20
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I understand perfectly where your coming from mariner. I'm currently doing the email, phone call and SMS thing with the BG I met in Patong. I will be going back in April and not sure how she will react if I decide to see other girls there.
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17-12-2004, 23:50
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Same as
I'm in the same situation Aussiemark. I'm definately gonna meet up with the girl I was with in Bangkok for my first couple of days. I'm then going to Phuket and might fly her over for a couple of days half way through my holiday. She's too good in the sack to pass up on!
 I've also got a girl ringing me from Phuket every other week or so. I'm out there in January so the next phone call I receive I'm going to take LivingLos' advice and be straight and tell her I'm going to butterfly. If she doesn't ring I'll just tell her when I see her out there. At the end of the day it's a holiday and you're doing nothing wrong by changing you're mind. They might throw a bit of a tantrum but that's life. Having said that, I wish I hadn't been so naive and given my ****ing number out now though! 
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18-12-2004, 19:53
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I would do it via e mail or a phone call..........as l would not be too keen spending time in hospital, exchanging knife wound stories about disgruntled BG's with the farang in the next bed who also just dumped his bg !
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19-12-2004, 10:35
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I agree with Livin LOS havin seen girls at the bar my fiancee works at upset that their teelak isnt responding to sms or phone calls. The truth is the best way to go. Even tho some of these girls are seeing other people they also still seem to have genuine affection and feelings for all of their boyfriends... I also agree break up prior to going... It will give her time to cool down and move on.... Dont do it in front of her friends at the bar this is a big mistake... Hope you do it sooner rather than later k
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19-12-2004, 10:51
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I also agree break up prior to going... It will give her time to cool down and move on.... Dont do it in front of her friends at the bar this is a big mistake...
[/quote] Agree, very much a face issue.
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19-12-2004, 17:20
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The best advice. And of course you`re right: bg´s have feelings "same, same". Not only "professionals" there. Hugo
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12-08-2005, 03:49
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One time i was in Patong i went 2 nights with a girl from a bar which is very close to Mai Thai Bar. This girl expected that i come to see her every night. But after 2 nights i needed something new and i had paid her. I did business as usual and went for a couple of drinsk to mai thai bar and of course she was observing me all the time. I also went for a drink in her bar and when i left i said im not interested anymore and off somewhere else.
The following days wherever i went the same strange thing happened. I went to a disco and after a couple of minutes someone tip my shoulder and it was her. I didn't matter if I went to Tiger, Safari or Thai Pan she was always there. It happened first in Safari. I went there with a girl but we were just friends. We were sitting inside. As my cigarettes got out of order i went outside to buy some. Outside I saw her and she started to make the show and cried in front of all the people there. I got upset and walked away. So i go inside and sit back on the sofa next to my friend. what happens she follows me and sits next to us. at this moment i just thought what happens next? I knew i did nothing wrong and had a nice chat with my friend. then we went home. she was just sitting there and observing us, in fact it didnt disturb me too much. But what she did was really offensive. In almost other situations i was alone and left always after hearing every time the same story. I know this story could be different, she could have been a girl that goes crazy in such situations. So I think butterflying could end up in a mess. Did anyone have situations like this with a LB?
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12-08-2005, 04:15
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Never had the situation with a Lb cos not my preference but get it just about everytime I go to LOS from bg/tg I have previously been with. It is the wonderful grapevine at its best, but even after we have all agreed to stay friends but me butterfly, they continue to do it and just do that observation thing. Never got any problems or scenes so far, been lucky. I think its just business enterprise equivalent to mass mailing or attempting secondary sales ploy. Outside chance, maybe she just liked you.
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12-08-2005, 05:44
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Thai girl radar
What I found funny was the fact that even if I'd only seen a girl for two times or so, she'd become attached. If I was anywhere within 500 yards of her, she'd somehow find out within 1 minute and there she was. I couldn't escape. Maybe it's best nevere to see the same girl twice.
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12-08-2005, 09:14
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I agree completly with IJ on this.
When you are not in LOS, do you really believe that she is only thinking about you?? When you are over there, either do not tell her you are coming, or when you are over there, jsut tell her that you do not want a relationship. I am sure it will not take long for her to ge tover the breakup!!
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12-08-2005, 12:56
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dear honey?????
i got no money ......there is no such thing as "bgf" the minute we leave town they are bangiing another dudue thats why thyey are good at what they do.
god/budda bless em.........i still luv em all ..theyy gotta make ends meet.. 
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12-08-2005, 14:55
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Woow this seems quite complicated and I guess I could say this being my first time going there alone and available is a good thing. I have no previous attachments and the worst thing that could happen is that someone recognize me, which is highly unlikely. Until now I've envyed your experience and expertice about dealing with the pretty ladies over there(bargirls), however it also seems like the experience and knowlege you gain comes or may come with a price and is also most needed as soon as you start "playing the game". I think I finally realized what most of you mean, when you state that the girls can't quite be categorized as prostitues, it's indeed money involved, but the whole thing is far too complexe to just see it as a "John"/Prostitute relation... Cheers!
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12-08-2005, 16:45
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Looks like some sound advice here already. Do the deed before you travel, be firm when you are there but don't be too worried. I would say if you don't take the piss, going to her bar and BFing her buddies it will not be a problem
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12-08-2005, 17:37
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have to agree here, honesty is the way. It all depends a bit on what the story was sofar. If it is just contact or have you given signs you wanted more? Well as many have said, you are bf nr ...... (fill in the blank) and only when you are there you are number 1. Just tell her honest that you don't want to see her no more and do it before you get to LOS. That way you have a cooldown period. Even worse? what to do with the one that wants you back after she left in the first place over someone with big stories? Well I will know tomorrow I guess (Yes I have been spotted driving through Kata)
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12-08-2005, 18:02
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Now that I think about it... When I was there there was this girl that "gave me credit" and let me owe het 400B 'til the next day... I saw her alot and I had at many occacions drinks at her bar thou I was with my at the time girlfriend. She didn't act like the rest of the girls thou and she acted more like the manager, she was the bartender and also in charge on the cash machine. Anyway, we met her once at banana club and as she saw us she approched me and I greeted her back but hardly in a jolly way, I was nice but serious and she stared at me and yelled at me that I was drunk, which actually I was  but it was more in the way she did it... She also said something to my girlfriend but it was in Thai which didn't sound very nice thou and then turned and left... That was the "most dangerous" or "unpleasent" situation I have encoutered with a sweet girl overthere, of course it can't even be called a situation. Most likely she was in a bad mood or perhaps I insulted her without noticing... Quote:
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