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23-04-2005, 17:13
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Not all bad
I am at the time of life where it is end-game stuff as far as my full-time employment goes. I have helped my son and his girlfriend buy a house, helped my daughter whilst she was studying and paid off the house. So what next?
A few years ago a friend of mine who lives in the States suggested we meet up for a beer in Thailand. Sounded like a good idea to me so I told my boss I was going to take a couple of weeks off, booked my ticket and headed off to Pattaya. I was overwhelmed by the lifestyle. So many pretty girls, so much attention!!! The only problem with Pattaya was that there was not a lot to do in the day-time for someone who is not a golfer. My mate suggested Phuket as an alternative so that was my next trip. I love relaxing on a chair at the beach during the day and hitting the bars during the night. Phuket is perfect for this. I have had quiet a few companions during my trips to Thailand but last year I met a girl that I really had a great time with. What to do? Not a problem really. Being an old guy with most of life’s problems behind me meant that it was easy to make a commitment to return in a few months to see how things would turn out. I went down the sponsorship road with my eyes wide open. After having paid a fortune to the ex wife and then having brought the kids up by myself, the thought of losing a bit of money with the upside being the chance of starting a new and different life didn’t worry me one bit. My girlfriend, who I met in bar, organized a bungalow for 5000 baht a month and lived in it until my return. When I went back in March this year I was met, belatedly, at the airport by my “sponsored” girlfriend and a few of her friends. We returned to the bungalow (see attached photo), freshened up and went out for a drink. I spent 3 weeks with her, getting to know her, meeting the family in Isaan, etc. The interesting thing is that when you are not renting a girl on a daily basis you get an entirely different person, the real one. My girlfriend is unbearable first thing in the morning. However I just go for a swim and by the time I come back breakfast is ready and the coffee is made. There were a lot of things I had forgotten about permanent relationships as I haven’t had one for about 10 years and once I even packed my bags to leave. After 3 weeks we were really comfortable with each other and felt that we could make it work. I plan to return every 3 months until I retire in the middle of next year. Then I will probably spend 6 months in Thailand and 6 months in Australia. I still think we need a lot more time to get to know each other but so far so good. So it is possible to have a relationship with someone you meet in a bar. At least this way you get to meet plenty of girls and, in my opinion, a greater chance of connecting with one. As for their lifestyle, well who am I to criticize as I am the one taking advantage of it. So, for any of you who are intimidated by the negativity that gets posted about: Sponsorship Age differences Bar girl relationships I can tell you that I know of at least 3 guys (not including me) for whom things are going well. Steve PS I have included one for the mongers. Sorry, all taken. 
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23-04-2005, 17:17
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Nice Post Senor....im Glad That Things Are Working Out For You And I Really Hope You Find Real Happiness With You Tirak...
Ij
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23-04-2005, 18:56
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Good story for sure. Yes I am experiencing the same thing. There are alot of thai women out there that do have a good heart. It is good to be careful, but in the end there are alot of these women that just want a good man and a happy family. cheers
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23-04-2005, 22:08
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fair play to you!! i hope when i am at your age and i have retired i can be as happy as you, sounds like you got it sorted. hope the future goes well also.
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25-04-2005, 18:12
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Go for it mate & fcuk all the cynics.
Hi Senor,
Really enjoyed reading your post. It's nice to hear from someone who seems to have discovered the better side of the BGF./ Falang "situation" and who hasn't become a cynical, disillusioned, "knocker". I sometimes wonder if some of these people who have bad experiences with TGs. are lacking in some areas themselves. Maybe they expect the earth, without having the willingness to make the adjustments that would be a pre-requisite in any relationship. I always reckon that a personal relationship is like everything in this life. What you receive is directly related to what you invest. Good luck for the future mate, I sincerely hope it works out for you.
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26-04-2005, 02:57
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A heartwarming story Senor123.I sincerely hope all goes well for you and your tirak
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02-05-2005, 09:52
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Very Beautiful and no wonder you took a chance..
I had a few months relationship with a Lao girl last year myself, awesome Charechter and looks, to me it seems the Khmer and Lao girls often have more defined / exotic asian features (eyes especially).. Still talk to my ex who is in austria now..
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02-05-2005, 16:08
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Thanks For The Inspiration!
Wow! Good for you, Steve! Your post is such a breath of fresh air in this sometimes stuffy forum where the dominant sentiment, that expressed by the most frequent posters is so cynical, and anti-BG. You know what I mean, the conviction that any relationship with a BG ought not be more than a strictly business, pay n' play transaction.I get so tired of hearing from what i call the "f*ck 'em and forget 'em" contingent on this board.
Thanks for telling us your story and by doing so, keeping the hope alive for a lot of us, and countless others who may read these posts, but who do not actively participate in the discussions. Thanks also to Speicher, me123, and dermarko for letting us know that there are others out there who are having positive experiences. Alibaba, I wholeheartedly agree with everything you stated so well in your post! Steve's post is the best, most positive post I've read on this board in a long time! Congratulations, and best of luck in the future, Steve. you have my admiration for the faith in yourself and humanity you've shown, the courage to take a risk, and the good sense and good heart to turn a deaf ear to the naysayers. You are the living proof that dreams can come true, but only for those who have not forgotten how to believe in them, and who are willing to take on the everyday work that goes into making the dream a reality! I am downright inspired! Thanks, again, for sharing with us, Steve! JayBee 
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03-05-2005, 14:00
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happy
Hey my best wishes to you and hope you will lead a happy and fulfilling life with your girl.
We all just want to be happy at the end of the day and it's heartwarming to see how someone amongst us has actually found some happiness. Cheers, Lene
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03-05-2005, 15:13
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great good news story
keep us posted 
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04-05-2005, 07:51
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Good to read a happy story for a change, i had a Thai girl that i was coming back to see until i got an email from her asking for 20,000baht. For me that's way too much to ask for & for all i know she may not be there when i come back, it's happend to me before. Still i can't stop thinking about her & sometimes think that maybe i should still see her. But like i said it's good to see that you have found someone nice.
Best of luck to you & your lady. Last edited by too cool : 04-05-2005 at 08:00.
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04-05-2005, 08:57
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I know a guy who has Thai girlfriend in Phuket who asks him for money all the time. This girl is not a B/G and has a good job. I think it is just the Thai way. I have been asked for things that I have refused to give, but, with a good explanation and a smile I get my point across. This way refusal is understood and we just move on. The thing that frustrates me is that there is no concept of "saving for the future" so, unless it is some sort of emergency like a medical problem I use the drip feed method in order to try and get my G/F to understand a little about financial planning. I think it is starting to work. Mate, I have been screwed so many times by women that I could get a job in a wine bottle opening plant. But, life is short so I just shrug it off and move on. Steve
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05-05-2005, 15:20
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Great attitude, Steve!
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06-05-2005, 09:57
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Not trying to flame but its not the way nature intended to have a 50 yrd old with a 22yrs girl
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06-05-2005, 10:46
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Says who ???
Its been that way for 1000's of years.. Men of power have always had concubines and younger lovers.. Marriages based in Eastern societies often pair up (often more than) 30+ year olds with girls straight over puberty.. You appear to have a very narrow minded view of the world through western cultures accepted norms.. I bet you think Polygamy is unnatural or sinful ?? Go tell that to entire cultures that have it as a basis for partners.. Grow up.. Get out of the place you grew up.. Experience other cultures a bit huh ???
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06-05-2005, 12:08
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It is nature but maybe not acceptable to some.
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Hi Happyboy, I think I could debate your statemant based on my experience. I know a guy in Phuket who is in his 60's and whose girfriend (mid 20s) has just had his baby. So I think in this case nature seemed to work just fine. I think you mean that it seems unnatural to you that a relationship should have this sort of age difference. However, if a realtionship with this sort of age difference does work then maybe nature/natural selection is again showing it's hand. The reason that many people on this forum like Thailand is that the male/female relationships are more "natural" than the "politically correct" behaviour that is forced upon people living in western society. I have also spent quiet a bit of time in Latin American countries where such large age differences are also normal. I am comfortable with my relationship. I have been accepted by the whole family and my girlfriend's son. The father of her son left her with nothing and no support so she is not in any particular hurry to have a relationship with a person who has no sense of responsibilty. Young love can be great but it certainly can be shallow as well. Steve. Last edited by senor123 : 06-05-2005 at 12:39. Reason: Change wording
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06-05-2005, 16:39
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Senor
Good luck to you You only live once so enjoy life and everything it has to offer. If you are happy and she is to then that is all that matters. Do you intend to live in LOS?
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06-05-2005, 17:39
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Don't think it will work any other way
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Hi Richie007, Yes my intention is to live in LOS. I know some people have had success with moving their Thai partners out of the country but I think this is a tough call. The Thai people I know have never expressed any inclination to move away from Thailand and neither has my girlfriend. They seem to have a sense of family that we in the West lack. I have also noticed this with Latin American families. I think it comes from always living very close together and supporting each other. In Australia it is rare to call on someone unannounced but for people who live very close to each other this gives them the zest for life. I live in a great place with rivers all around me and not a lot of noise. However I think my G/F would feel very lonely in this environment. Steve
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