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18-08-2005, 18:24
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Sometimes it works
Looking back at some old photos I couldn't believe that I have been going with my Thai B/G G/F for nearly 1 year.
I met her in a bar in Kamala in October 2004 (I think) and spent about 5 days with her. I had been to Thailand a couple of times before and usually butterfly until I find someone with whom I am compatible and then spend the rest of the time with her. I usually go back to Thailand every 3 months for a couple of weeks and spend the time with my G/F. As I have said before, I went down the sponsorship track and, to my knowledge, my G/F quit the P4P scene as soon as I started sponsoring her. She still worked in the bar for a while but said that she got too many problems by not going with the punters so she gave it up. The bar was owned by a friend of hers and all the girls were from a small circle of friends that had known each other for a while. I am still good mates with the owner of the bar partly due to the fact I make good inroads into his stock of alcohol when I am there. The sponsorship thing was a risk I guess, but I have long ago given up complaining about things that don't go my way. I have paid my share (split with family) of hospital costs for my G/F and her mama. My G/F keeps a log of all these type expenses and shows me photos and the invoices when I go to Thailand. Now she is working in Bangkok with her dad and she returns to Kamala when I return to Thailand. Our relationship is comfortable and we enjoy time together and apart with our own mates. If I was a young guy I would not go down this track. Too many women but plenty of time when you are young. However the relationship suits me now. From the feedback I have been getting the chances of this type of relationship working are pretty much less that 5% but when it does it is a lot of fun. About zero chance of working if you only visit once a year. I wouldn't like to live in Thailand full time as I have a great group of family and friends in Oz but I reckon 2 x 3 months (6 months each year) should work fine. So, sometimes it works........ Here are some photos from the trips. Steve 
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18-08-2005, 18:46
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Senor great to read and its nice to see the opposite side of peoples experience instead of the usual get ripped off no chance etc posts. I agree with them statistically but I also from my own previous experience know it can also work and when it does it can be really great and also the best way to really get to know Thailand. I had a very similar experience to you, if there was problems at the begining it was from my side because i was very careful always checking and double checking every little experience assuming she was from the 95% and was about to pull some ploy. Not with her now only because i finally finished things because still had a bit of unfinished butterflying to do but am still on very good terms and am still in contact by sms and telephone, she is running her own business up north and getting by, hopefull I will get time on a trip to go visit, the only problem is my not understanding if they can accept friendship over realtionship but perhaps I will find out. Have thought many times that someday I will post a thread detailing all my experiences with her to illustrate to others that yes it can work and yes there are some Thai girls who do not just go with falang for money, but it would be a really long thread.
Here's to your future and perhaps between us we have pushed the stats up from 5 to 6%. Wrote more than I expected to here, well i'm at work and bored.
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18-08-2005, 18:47
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Nice post and nice story as always, Steve.
I have 2 friends who got married with a BG and, after 2 years, they are still together, so yes, sometimes it works. Good idea to live 6 months in LOS and 6 months in your country where you have your family and friends. Maybe your GF would be glad if you take her to visit your world one day. Many TG have never left their country and dream to discover other places. Next step, I guess  All the best, mate 
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18-08-2005, 18:47
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18-08-2005, 19:02
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Happy to hear it works out for you Steve.
Yes, ofcourse it can work. Many Thai girls is very happy to have an ordinary and secure life, thus, just enough money for a normal daily life without struggling and/or without sleeping with many men. The ones who are greedy or with parents that are greedy and always want more is the relationships that really fails. I have seen examples where the girls were happy what they had and got but due to their parents and pressure from them destroyed the relationship. (Some parents just look at their daughters as a way to become rich, and dont care what she want or feel) Good Luck.
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18-08-2005, 19:05
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I've thought about this IJ and on similar basis but if not working how do the expats stay in. Surely 10 months of 24/7 mongering would eventually kill even the fittest of us. Sefton appears to have 3 or 4 days hibernating and then living large for the next 4 or 5 days, the others are owning bars so appear to be out but earning at the same time, but I wondered if I lived there and didn't work how could I stay in any night knowing the delights of the Bangla Road were just outside my door. Spoke to Simon about this cos he is one month on the rigs one month in Patong and his answer was he was trying to stay in occasionally but didn't seem to be able to and was looking for a hobby or another distraction other than the bg's etc, any suggestions from expats or experiences. Heh IJ in Ireland do you really get two months when the weather is okay and not raining or windy, always seems to be gusting gails when ever I go over to play golf.
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18-08-2005, 19:12
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WELL NOT QUIET 2 MONTHS.............ITS BEING QUIET NICE SINCE I CAME HOME [10 DAYS AGO ] BUT TODAY IT RAINED THAI STYLE..........NOW ITS SUNNY AGAIN AND AROUND 15-20 DEGREES..SO ITS NOT TO BAD.......... AS FOR THE WEATHER WHEN YOU COME OVER.......THE MAN ABOVE KNOWS YOU ARE A BAD MAN..SO HE PISSES AND FARTS DOWN ON YOU..55555.............. IJ
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18-08-2005, 22:53
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i really think like any relationship, you have to take it slow. ive been in 2 relationships in thailand, and i have not commited to either one, but maybe someday i will. but by going slow, both of you get to know the other person.
dodger, on the subject of staying in, i findit extremely hard i was actully looking forward to going back to work for awhile just to get back on a normal routine(work, the gym, i need this one bad, and home at night relxing watching tv. going out hard on thurs,fri and sat. im sure after 2-3months ill be ready to go back to being a bum
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18-08-2005, 23:13
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glad your still happy senor, i am now in the same situation with a girl, only been together for 3 months now and out of that only spent 5 weeks together but it seems to be going fine, your figure of 5% i am unsure of, there are not many people out there that are willing to tell others that they are still in a relationship with a girl that they found in the bar, so perhaps the number is higher, just my thought on that subject.
As for managing to stay in a few nights a week, this is my story so far: first trip was a holiday so out every night as expected. second trip, well just getting used to the place so out every night again. third trip, tried to stay in one night after about a week, went to bed around 11pm but of course my body clock is now set to be going out at this time so spent the whole night watching TV and other things, still ended up sleeping from around 7am till 1pm so my plan of having a night in and making use of the next was a total waste, so i was out each night after that until my body gave up on me and had to spend the last 3 days in bed. forth trip coming up in 3 weeks, already planning a few nights in but we shall see how that goes. all the best senor Simon
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18-08-2005, 23:50
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555555 Things go faster in LOS IMO, you should say : its just kissing for the 1st hour You get to touch her breasts on the 2nd hour She gives you a BJ on the 3rd hour You lick her pussy on the 4th hour And on the 5th hour... Its time to go to MTB... DAMN!! 
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18-08-2005, 23:55
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then you better stay for 6 weeks.
What happens if you stay for 7 weeks? When does the sick buffalo come into the equation?
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19-08-2005, 00:12
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Success rate of 5% may actually be quite close. Think about it, in general we typically end relationships in a break up. If that wasn't the case, then we'd all be marrying the first girl we ever met. Don't forget the typical sky high divorce rates too.
Anything is possible, with things like this, it just depends on the people involved.
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19-08-2005, 00:43
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Some damn good posts there fellas. I can relate to a lot of it, there's a young lady I met in a bar who I'm very fond of. Who knows if it'll go anywhere, but so far so good..... I'm meeting up with her again in a couple of months anyway, should be good.
I think maybe people shouldn't automatically judge girls because they're BGs, as we all know there's good & bad in every walk of life. I for one would be happy to settle with an ex bargirl if it felt right (if I ever get to 'settling down' 555555555). As mentioned above, they're often working the bars 'cos of pushy/greedy parents etc. Ultimately it's our own society that judges us, well in 36 years I haven't give a toss what the masses think so I ain't gonna start now ! Most guys on this forum must've had the usual cliches thrown at 'em when we go to LOS, all the sh1t like 'you're desperate', you can't get a real woman' etc etc etc. Usually stated by some soulless drone, stuck in a loveless marriage for the rest of their days. If only they knew....  Fcuk 'em. I know where the real women are, and it ain't here ! Good luck to everyone, happy hunting....
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19-08-2005, 01:43
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my parents have been married for 47 years and while they have had some great times now just seem to fight bitterly as my dad is overweight and out of shape and very happy to garden and sit by the pool drinking all day. my mom is more gregarious and wants to do things with her friends so their interests do not mesh anymore.
I have never been married and have had only 3 long term(2 years or more) girlfriends over the years. I am now very quick to end a relationship when things go sour as I do not want to be like my parents are now. When I do meet someone I don't care if it will be a farang girl or a TG or a BG from LOS or the Philippines as long as there is a connection(love this term as it means I do not have to explain myself) with her. Do I feel that there will be a stigma on me if I marry a bargirl? Will I be self conscious about the looks that we will get when I am together? Who cares if I am happy being with her and she is happy being with me. Being 45 my window of opportunity to meet younger farang women is closing rapidly and I definitely like younger women. I am pretty active and like to have fun but am not a big drinker like some of you european lads(but I do pretty well on a good day) but meeting younger women who might be interested in me here in farang land is much harder now. And just think, if I meet an 18 year old now, she will be only 43 when I am 70 and I will probably die in bed with a great big smile on my face. And even if she was 25 now she would only be 50 then. And if you never try you will never know if it could have worked out. You just need to realise that it might not work out but it would be great if it did. Getting to know each other and our different cultures would be interestin just by itself.
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19-08-2005, 03:10
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I have no child.. I want to adopt one... Thai girl, 20 years old .... any advice ?
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19-08-2005, 03:24
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Great to hear success stories and I hope everything works out for all you guys with your Tilaks.
I cant see myself being in this position, Even though I do get close to some of the girls, When it starts getting too serious I have to end it for my own sanity, I cant see myself ever living in Los full-time because I would miss my family and friends to much, And my life here in Ireland, For all the faults this country has, I still love it here. So getting serious with any of the girls would be bad for my health, I would end up getting seriously depressed and probably end up hating my life here, Which is something I dont want, Maybe things would be different if I had had the money to spend 6months there and 6months here but at the moment that is not possible for me, You never know in the future that might change but for now I will have to keep on butterflying. Which brings me to my next problem, One of the girls I stayed with last time, I started to like a bit too much and she works in a BMs bar which I intend spending a lot of time in on my upcoming tour, And I have not got a clue how to handle it, I have spoken to the BM before about the girl and he told me she will be cool if I want to butterfly, I just hope that is the case because I told her at the time that I would come back and see her, But I am getting second thoughts now, Too make it worse I got myself into a similar situation last time and the girl stalked me for about 2wks, And it ended with me getting a couple of slaps....55555. Dont fancy getting them again, So my question is do you guys ever get yourselfs into similar situations and if so, How do you guys handle them?
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19-08-2005, 03:41
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wear a helmet.
Just joking Ally. I think every girl reacts differently to the situation and you might get a different reaction from each girl depending upon what is happening to them at the moment. If they need money they might get mad if you leave them. You might just have to make the decision on the fly. Good luck.
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19-08-2005, 04:20
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Cultural differences
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Ally never met you yet but from the forum have got to think that I know you a bit and my advice is based on that knowledge, they have "Face" we hear about it all the time but we have and you especially have "Front" use that to your advantage, use honesty tell her straight and then go on and have the usual good times, heh "no problem"
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19-08-2005, 05:31
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Good to see a sucess Senor.
Ally, why don't you post a fresh thread. 'How do I avoid a slapping' or similar, could be a good one! 
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19-08-2005, 10:14
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I don't think that she is the stalker type. If you are going to hang out in her bar, then be upfront with her, don't go out with her, have her be your bartender there and tip her well. It will all smooth out in a few days. But you might be surprised that the feelings come back, and that might change your plans.
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19-08-2005, 10:28
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